I don’t want to give you the impression, based on my last post, that life is all “Grass is greener on the other side”. Here’s comes a little dose of reality.
Some migrants think that if they make it in Australia, life would be all “la-la-la I’ve made it and now I can chill under a cabana with a mocktail”. You know what, life in Australia has its own stresses. Life is not all hunky dory here. My good friend Rachel who lives in Melbourne described life here as, “Same shit, different bucket”. Gosh, how true!
You may be envious of me because I got a job after a mere two months in Australia. But please, don’t be. Sure, it’s kind of incredible and all, but you don’t really know the kind of stress I go through. In fact, today, I got on my bike after work and rode home as if demons were right behind me because I had so much of pent up energy from the rage/frustration/annoyance I felt at work that I had to burn it off. Later, me and my friend drank pots of tea and ate jiao zhi and ranted about our respective working lives.
Life here isn’t easy. If anything, judging from the conversations I have with other migrants, life is much easier in Malaysia. So, if you’re coming over here to experienced an easier life, please forgive me as I go to one side and laugh my ass off 😉
Okay, kidding aside, what I’m trying to say is there’s good and bad. I came to Australia to discover myself, and I did in many ways. I did, in a way, wanted to come to Australia because I had this deluded belief that life here is easier and it’s easier to have a work life balance. In some cases it could be true, but in my case not quite as I work for a creative agency and agency work is hard work.
I realise that it’s not the situation or place that I have to change but myself. My friend in Malaysia said that it’s sure one hell of an expensive way to discover this truth, but sometimes, I suppose, you need a change of environment to realise things.
But still, you know, no regrets coming here despite the challenges. Challenges can be opportunities after all, and if we don’t think of ourselves as victims but as students when challenges come our way, then life is easier to handle. My current situation at work, I’m learning more about myself: How I handle stress, what I really enjoy doing, and what annoys me. It’s a challenge to rise to the next level.
So, I hope you have an idea what I’m trying to say here. If you’re in Malaysia, don’t think your life is shit just because you’re in Malaysia. Because life is shit here too. Shit is the same everywhere, no matter the geography. Maybe different colour only. And container!
(Okay, I shall put the shit metaphor to rest for now.)
So, appreciate your life wherever you are! Look around and be thankful for what you have. Don’t keep focusing on what you don’t have. 🙂
Have a good life, and take care of your bucket!